The trip stops today
Let’s stop taking one particular trip: the guilt-trip.
Lately me and the ones a care deeply about have been ending their long-overdue trip aka falling into the trap of narcissistic, guilt-tripping junkies. It’s a wonderful thing to end this bullshit.
It’s pretty simple, yet it’s an overly-complicated journey if you’re just starting out. It’s like internalized capitalism where you feel guilty for not being productive.
I don’t read much psychology, but I’m sure there’s an explanation. But my version: quit quickly, escape the trap.
“So I guess you’re busy, huh? {sad emoji}. Well then I’ll do this {thing they asked you to help with} on my own.”
Yes, go ahead! I wish you the best of luck. If you need anything, I’ll send you some YouTube tutorials. These channels are goldmines.
One great hack I recommend: Google is still full of non-retarded, genuine information on how to accomplish things.
Oh the thing I’m currently busy with (that blocked me from helping you)? Oh it’s nothing, but I’ll finish my own shit for now.
“I was counting on you but I guess it’s okay if you can’t lend me the money. I’ll try to find it on my own {sad/sarcastic smile emoji}”
Again, best of luck to you! Truly. I wish you the best in finding that money to pay that other debt you’re stuck with.
If you need anything: here’s a list of freelance jobs you can do from the comfort of your home using your smartphone since you’re so technically-proficient in using these online loan apps.
Oh my money? They’re… somewhere else (mostly in my stomach). I mean… I have some urgent needs I need to take care of.
By the way, when you said “it’s okay.” Just stop, I didn’t and won’t apologize for not lending you money.
“I thought that you can at least help {a particular relative} because we have to pity them.”
My mind: “Fuck you”
My diplomatic response template: Yes it’s too bad, but I need to be able to swim effectively myself to help a drowning person and that’s not something I can do right now.
“You’re having a great life right now.”
Thank you and yes I’m really grateful for this. I wish you can soon say the same about yours and not whine about how other people have it better than you because of their good decisions and your bad ones.
“You’d never understand my position.”
I agree! I can only understand my own point-of-view and where I stand right now and therefore I can’t give you money to whatever it is your digital endeavors are.
So yeah, those are some of the things I have heard recently (and what people around me shared).
So let’s get off the guilt train and let’s walk. The breeze (or even the heavy rainstorm) is beautiful when you don’t have to feel guilty about someone else’s fuck-ups that they try to blame on you.